This one is so important it should be burned into your brain so that it’s the first thing you think of when you are angry.
You might think that rage would fuel your response for maximum effect, but it doesn’t. Trust me, you’re not thinking clearly, and as a result, your response is most definitely not the one you want to live with. When you are angry and hurt, you need some time to clarify your thoughts and figure out what to do. What you are looking for is the right response that will allow you to achieve the outcome you want, not one that will unleash your fury and result in negative consequences.
Boxers that fight angry are generally not winning. They might be fun to watch, but it’s a flawed strategy. The fighters who win are the ones who remain clear headed, have prepared well, and can change their strategy as needed. If you hit them, they don’t get mad, they adapt.
So there’s the lesson. Don’t get mad, adapt.