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How Do Others See You?

The short answer is: Probably not the way you think they do.

Before we fall down this rabbit hole, here’s how I try to navigate this question – I just genuinely try to do the best I can and let the rest take care of itself. In other words, I figure if I really try to live my life righteously, don’t lie, and treat others with dignity and respect – then I don’t have to think about it. Most of the time, this works out well enough for me. Because if I then do something wrong (and trust me, I will), at least I know I was trying to do the right thing. I can then more easily forgive myself, learn from it, make whatever corrections are necessary and move on.

The problem with this kind of thinking, though, is this: You might think you are doing the right thing, but to someone else it may not appear that way at all. In fact, for them, you are most definitely not doing the right thing. This can be a real issue when the other person is someone you care about deeply.

So what do you do when this happens?

First of all, you need to stop everything and really listen to what this person is saying. Because there is probably some element of truth here – something you are either not aware of, or maybe vaguely aware of but didn’t think it was that important.

If you want to protect your relationship with this person, you need listen, learn, and change the best you can.