We can’t control whatever shit storm life throws at us – influence it; possibly, mitigate it; maybe – control it; NO.
But here’s the thing – and this bears repeating on a regular basis:
We CAN control how we react to and interpret these events. In fact, this is pretty much the only thing that is completely under our control.
Understanding this goes a long way toward making life more pleasant. Once you learn how to refocus your energy and pull back from what is out of your control you get the added bonus of increasing your sense of self efficacy. You stop feeling like you are at the mercy of whatever’s happening to you and more like you are in control.
You start to become more confident in your ability to navigate difficult situations and come out on top.