I guess this is about as close as you can get to winning in life as you get older – it may seem pathetic if you’re younger, but from where I stand it works for me. What am I talking about?
Just this: the idea that you can make something positive out of a negative – and negative is something there is no shortage of as we age. There are lots of examples in my life, the specifics of which I won’t go into here. But it’s the concept that’s important – the proposition that you can take something very bad and somehow turn it into something good. And trust me, it can be done. I’m about to attempt it again, and my money says I’ll pull it off.
The added benefit is that it completely reframes your internal dialogue about whatever horrible fucking trauma you’re trying to deal with.
If you can pull it off you go from victim to conqueror in one fell swoop.