Everyone deserves to be treated with respectuntil they prove otherwise: this is a good place to start.
If you say something hurtful unintentionally, apologize and admit your ignorance, ask for the correct response, and move on. It’s not that hard.
Understand that, as a U.S. citizen, our default is to not like being told what to do. Don’t let yourself be a self-centered asshole. Learning new things is fun!
Sure, America is a country of extremes. We are now going through a necessary time of self-correction and things are changing, ultimately for the better. But the process is chaotic and messy – don’t get mad if people seem a little confused about where the boundaries are. See number one.
If you are white (and especially if you’re a male): You’ve got to get over yourself and realize that you’ve had all the advantages in this game of life, like, forever. Yeah, I know you might not be doing so great right now, but that doesn’t change the truth. Have some fucking humility and use your inherent strength to show some sensitivity to everyone else who is struggling. Isn’t that what men are supposed to do?
When in doubt, smile and help someone out. Anyone. Really. We’re all in this together .