This is the idea that you can take anything negative and reframe it as something positive.
Bullshit you say? I would argue otherwise, but the choice is yours to make.
But before you bail, first hear me out. Because here is what’s going to happen in your life (you might want to sit down before reading any further)…
Bad things are going to happen to you, this is, unfortunately, a given. I mean really bad. If you’ve made it this far and nothing really terrible has happened yet, I’m afraid I have some sobering news. It’s coming, and probably sooner rather than later.
Oh, and you are going to fuck up – really, really badly. Like catastrophically bad. Bad to the degree that in the short term you may feel as if life can’t go on. It will, as long as you don’t do anything stupid to end it in a moment of emotional dispair.
So the question then becomes “How do I survive this?”
This is where cognitive reframing comes in. It not only works, it’s your best chance of developing the kind of resilience that will allow you to bounce back and learn something at the same time. It’s one of those tricks in life that should come with the handbook no one gives you.
I realize you’re probably not going to listen to me, and that’s okay – I probably wouldn’t have listened either. But know this: I am telling you this because I want to help.
Take from it what you will.