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Monthly Archives: November 2018

The Easy Part Is The Idea

The hard part is actually making something out of the idea.

See, if you’re creative, coming up with ideas isn’t that difficult. They’re everywhere, and it’s not that hard to write them down. But let’s be clear – they’re not all good, and the ability to separate the good ones from the rest is often enough alone to distinguish oneself as someone with a vision.

But developing an idea into a fully realized piece of art is another matter entirely.

This is what separates the posers from the real thing, because it’s almost impossible. Lightening may strike once or twice in a lifetime and a piece will emerge fully formed with very little effort. But it’s a fools game to think that this is how it works, and those who believe this are in for some very cruel life lessons.

It’s only when you’ve got an idea that you think is worth developing that the real work starts. The long and often painful grind of figuring out what this thing wants to be. Oh sure, you will have some very gratifying moments along the way that will be much better than fun, and it’s these moments that will keep you going. Because in order to develop something to a high level one must be prepared for some brutally frustrating work.

All the good shit in life is just crazy hard. But if, every now and then, you can pull it off – holy fuck, it’s the best feeling ever.

Finding Joy

When life seems overwhelming bleak, you must seek joy, no matter how insignificant the source may seem. The only thing that matters is that you are able to completely immerse yourself in it, even if it’s only for a few fleeting moments. This is your medicine, the life raft you are throwing yourself in your moment of darkness.

This isn’t the time to question the worth of the source of your joy, or whether it has any perceived value to anyone else. None of that matters – the important thing – the only thing – is to just let go and be in the moment, losing yourself in this thing that you love.

It is this joy that will save you, wherever you might find it, over and over.

These are the things that make life worth living. 

Pay attention to them.

In Extremis


1) In an extremely difficult situation.

2) At the point of death.

Personally, I like the poetic imagery of the Latin translation:

In the farthest reaches.

So the next time you think you’re in deep shit, ask yourself this:

Am I in extremis?

I didn’t think so. Sometimes things aren’t as bad as you think.

Useless Baggage

Oh sure, you can carry a lifetimes worth of anger and resentment with you constantly. That way you have easy access to it, so you can impress whatever friends you have left and whoever else makes the mistake of getting too close.

Just think of all the good that poison is doing you. Can’t everyone else see how life has fucked you over? How you deserve better, how stupid everyone else is (except for you), and how you’re going to make them all pay.

Well, I hope you’ve got a sense of humor, because I’m afraid the jokes on you.

The only one you’ve fucked is yourself.

What Is Real? Part 1

Proposition 1) It’s all a construct in your mind.

I know that sounds trippy, but it’s true. Of course, the real world, with its laws of physics still applies. These laws are not a construct, at least for now, at our current state of development.

There’s also science, which attempts to explain and understand the world around us. These disciplines enhance our understanding of reality, but they do not represent our internal construct.

What you think of as reality, is really just your internal “map” of your existence in the world as you understand it.

Proposition 2) Since it’s a construct in your mind, and since we know we have some degree of neural plasticity, it can be altered.

Successfully treated mental illness might be a useful example of this. The afflicted’s sense of reality is distorted, but with the proper motivation and treatment, the distortions can be revealed and corrected. Obviously this is not completely possible for everyone, yet it is absolutely true for some (important caveat: like life itself, this is an ongoing process).

My overarching point here is this: For the purpose of our internal consciousness, what you believe to be true is true. We each possess an internal locus of control, whether we choose to exercise it or not.

To a certain degree, we control our own destiny by what we believe we are capable of.

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There’s A Very Big Difference…

Between those who do and those who talk about the ones that do.

Let’s have a bit of a reality check here, shall we?

First of all, it’s a fuck of a lot easier to criticize something someone has done than it is to actually do something yourself. The person who has created something and made it public has exposed themselves in a way that takes some serious balls. The one who “critiques” what these people have done is showing no balls whatsoever, especially if it’s done anonymously on the internet. Do you really think that those of us who think and have an awareness of how life works pay any attention to this bullshit?

My hat is off to any artist or entrepreneur who actually makes something – it is the supreme act of giving of oneself, no matter what the motive.

Honest, well thought out and intelligent criticism is important, but just because you have access to the internet or write for some organization doesn’t mean you are qualified to do so. Self-serving criticism to promote an agenda is just patently nauseating, and I have definitely reached a point in my life where I simply refuse to waste my time on it.

There are plenty of people who make things I might not like, but I at least have respect for their ability to actually do something.

What have you made?

Stop Pussyfooting & Just Do It

Seriously – if you are hesitant to do something you want to do, perhaps you should ask yourself why?

What exactly are you afraid of?

Maybe you should run the process through in your mind and try to imagine the consequences. Are they serious enough to warrant actual fear?

Or are you just afraid of exposing yourself, afraid of appearing vulnerable and weak? And what, I might ask, is wrong with that? Aren’t we all vulnerable and weak at times? Isn’t this just part of the human condition?

Is it that you are you afraid of looking foolish? Really?

Or maybe afraid that you suck at whatever it is you want to be good at? Well here’s a news flash – everybody sucks before they get good. It’s part of the process. Besides, as I’ve pointed out before, sucking at something is actually a good thing because it means you are still growing.

I guess my point here is this: if you want to do something and it scares you, maybe you are just being weak. You might even be depriving yourself and others of something meaningful, something unique to yourself.

Sometimes you just have to be brave, know that your intentions are pure and put your fear aside.

Just fucking do it.